This Motivational Monday is, of course, all about Halloween!
Bags and bags and bags of candy, candy here, candy there, candy everywhere. Turn the corner: candy, open a door: candy, walk into the grocery store: candy paradise. I don’t know when Halloween became the biggest party day of the year for Hershey’s, Mars, and Willy Wonka, but I’m pretty sure back in the day kids were bobbing for APPLES 😉
As you look around at all that candy, the volume of your inner voice can turn up to an ear-piercing level saying: “This stupid holiday is just torture, look at all the candy I can’t have. I don’t get to enjoy anything.” “I am a horrible person with no willpower if I eat this mini Twix bar” “Why can everyone else defeat the temptation of eating all of this candy and I can’t? I must just suck. I might as well forget it and start digging in. I’m just not worth it” All I hear is a lot of negative self-talk, beating yourself down, and this dread that you are going to have to fight temptation allll night or else you’ve failed. Does anyone hear that? Well STOP it!
“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.” I love this quote and I’m sure this isn’t sure first time you’ll hear it. Stop telling yourself who you AREN’T instead of standing up for who you ARE. Guess what? The only person you’re battling with is yourself. Halloween, or any holiday for that matter, should be about fun, family, laughter, and celebrating, not about struggling with this internal doubt, pain, and frustration. Change your thinking, because if you are always thinking you’re not this or not that, how are you ever going to reach any goal?
Believe in your strength and willpower, and cut yourself some slack. Have a piece of candy; it’s gonna be okay!! Just don’t eat the ENTIRE bag of Snickers mini-bars! It’s all about moderation. Enjoy that candy in the moment instead of feeling like the only way you can reach fulfillment is by eating ever single piece. That’s when the guilt creeps in. I don’t want you to dread Halloween because all you do is worry about whether you can win this internal candy guilt battle. Is it really about candy, or is it about your beliefs about yourself? You are surrounded by temptation every day and can overcome it, so you can do the same thing on Halloween. It’s just another day! Don’t give up what you want most for what you want now.
Halloween and Trick-Or-Treat Tips
If you’re like me, you love handing out candy on Halloween. All of the kids dressed up in their costumes, so excited to walk from house to house saying “trick-or-treat!” and having candy put into their bags, the first-timer’s look of total and complete shock that all they had to do was say three words and they get candy, carving pumpkins and putting out the jack-o-lanterns, hiding in the bushes and jumping out at them as they run screaming down the driveway…. Wait, just pretend I didn’t say that one 😉
Now, you’ve done a fantastic job of not taking a couple of pieces of candy for yourself each time the doorbell rings, but what do you do at the end of the night when trick-or-treating is almost over, there don’t seem to be many kids left, and you have at least two whole bags of candy left?? You don’t want to be stuck with that candy in the house, softly calling you name as you take a couple out thinking “ok, just a couple more and I’m done.” Next thing you know, those two bags are gone! There must have been a candy thief or something that broke into the house and ate all of it!! Oh wait, that you would be you.
So, how you solve this? Well, here’s a strategy I use: Check the clock every now and then so you know how much longer you can expect trick-or-treaters, knowing that the traffic will slow down as it gets closer and closer to the end of the witching hour. If you notice you still have a ton of candy leftover, give the next couple of kids a little more than you typically would…..say, a couple handfuls? That way, you know you’ll run out by the end of the night or maybe even close-up shop early. Their parents may not be super thrilled, but the kids will be! So will you when the temptation is no longer there.
I LOVE Halloween, so I’m so excited to share this love with you all this week!